Meet Pam

I’m Pam, and as I write this I am 46years old. I was 45 when I realised that the Peri-Menopause had snuck up on me and whispered “surprise mother f*cker” in my ear (in my head this is also in the voice of Michelle from the TV series Derry Girls).

In truth I had probably been riding those wonky hormone waves for at least a year prior to this realisation, but hadn’t joined the dots on the cyclical nature of my symptoms. This is not uncommon as the Peri-Menopause is a sneaky wee blighter and presents in different ways for different people. One gal’s sleep dysregulation is another person’s belly fat gain, or acne or gut issues or – as was the case for me – pretty hefty anxiety and overwhelm that didn’t always follow the same pattern.

And the other little “gift” (ahem) is that it comes at a time in our life where we often have a ton going on. We may have pressures at work, at home or with aging extended family. Our close friends are very likely to be navigating the Perry-Meno storm with us and tackling their own peaks and troughs, which might mean they are less available. Many of us may be parenting teens and what a joy to behold it is when their hormone changes clash beautifully with ours, as their late nights tally so delightfully with our energy falling off a cliff at 7pm or perhaps – joy of great joys – their overwhelm/anxiety/worries over exams or college or friendship/relationship lock horns with our overthinking/self-esteem nose-dive/generally feeling like a big fat pudding of nothing.

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I had been supporting Women in health for many a year, but it wasn't until I experienced it myself that I truly understood just how challenging it can be. For years I had been saying to clients "it's not all about the flipping avocado's you know" and never was this more true that in the midlife Meno-dance. 

Within my sessions I introduce Women to a whole new tool-kit for surfing the midlife highs and lows, with a special focus on self-care, self-compassion, building resilience and banishing the negative mind-munsters that can leave us feeling depleted, run out and in deep overwhelm. 

More than anything I hope to help other Women feel less alone as they navigate the sometimes-choppy waters that is midlife.. My sessions offer solace, insight and real clarity on an alternative way to navigate midlife; and all with a side serving of compassion and a glug of humour (where appropriate!)

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Pam is commonly spotted perched on her back step with a cup of something murky, dogs-as-radiator playing their vital cameo roles; wondering if she’s forgotten something vital. Inevitably there is something to remember or something to do but it can usually wait until the cup is devoid of liquid.